Retreat

Be still, and the world is bound to turn herself inside out to entertain you. Everywhere you look, joyful noise is clanging to drown out quiet desperation. High Tide in Tucson, by Barbara Kingsolver

When I was a youngster, I absolutely loved going to camp. There was something surreal about the experience, […]

Opinions, Truth, and Trees

Over the weekend, a wonderful young, Zen worker gave my front walkway a facelift, replacing the old, worn out, poorly installed concrete sidewalk with some beautiful new pavers—artfully designed and lovingly installed. Thank you, Rob Roy!  Thank you, Rob Roy, for designing and building our new Zen walkway! This morning, I am enjoying […]

An Invincible Host

Your success and happiness lie in you…. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties. ~ Helen Keller It seems as though I have used this quotation before. Helen Keller’s attitude always touches me. A few years ago, the beautiful daughter of my dear friend, […]

“I have done that, too.”

Please forgive me. I forgive you. Thank you. I love you. Ira Byock wrote an amazing book about how we can all live our lives with less regret by staying aware of what matters most. The Four Things That Matter Mostcame after he had spent over a decade in emergency medicine, and more […]

Mother Love

Mother love is not the same thing as smother love. This morning I saw this quotation that says it best: “A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary.” (Dorothy Canfield Fisher) This week when I rode my bike to Riverview Park I was delighted to […]

A Daugher Remembers: Anniversary Energies

While many of us are somewhat aware that anniversary energies affect us, I am coming to respect this phenomena with a deeper reverence as pure gift. Twenty years ago today (May 7, 1992) my dad died. I was at home that morning and the phone rang. It was my mom. She said, “I think […]

Patron Saint of Desperate Causes

Perhaps it is simply a result of my not having been a Catholic in this lifetime (rather than an indication of any ignorance), but I confess that Saint Rita of Cascia had totally escaped my awareness until this past week. I eagerly read these words about her, “She is known as the Saint […]

“Where is God?”

I was in a Holiday Inn at five in the morning after twenty-four hours of vomiting every twenty minutes. I was slumped on the floor, holding the space of a rib that had been removed there three weeks earlier.   And my wife—in anger, in panic, in desperation—called out,  “Where is God?”    […]

How to Argue About Jesus

So what to do with people like this? Let them rant. When they take a breath, repeat back what they said in your own words. Any counselor will tell you that repetitively explaining anger dispels it. You don’t have to fix anything. You don’t have to make any promises you don’t intend to keep. […]

Truly Present

Mark Twain is thought to have said, “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” The statement honors how easily we all can be influenced by what another says or thinks about us. That is probably why it feels so good to be with others who share similar values to our […]