Mother Love

Mother love is not the same thing as smother love. This morning I saw this quotation that says it best: “A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary.” (Dorothy Canfield Fisher) This week when I rode my bike to Riverview Park I was delighted to […]

A Daugher Remembers: Anniversary Energies

While many of us are somewhat aware that anniversary energies affect us, I am coming to respect this phenomena with a deeper reverence as pure gift. Twenty years ago today (May 7, 1992) my dad died. I was at home that morning and the phone rang. It was my mom. She said, “I think […]

Patron Saint of Desperate Causes

Perhaps it is simply a result of my not having been a Catholic in this lifetime (rather than an indication of any ignorance), but I confess that Saint Rita of Cascia had totally escaped my awareness until this past week. I eagerly read these words about her, “She is known as the Saint […]

“Where is God?”

I was in a Holiday Inn at five in the morning after twenty-four hours of vomiting every twenty minutes. I was slumped on the floor, holding the space of a rib that had been removed there three weeks earlier.   And my wife—in anger, in panic, in desperation—called out,  “Where is God?”    […]

How to Argue About Jesus

So what to do with people like this? Let them rant. When they take a breath, repeat back what they said in your own words. Any counselor will tell you that repetitively explaining anger dispels it. You don’t have to fix anything. You don’t have to make any promises you don’t intend to keep. […]

Truly Present

Mark Twain is thought to have said, “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” The statement honors how easily we all can be influenced by what another says or thinks about us. That is probably why it feels so good to be with others who share similar values to our […]

Outside the Window

I have been thinking a lot about the difference between illness and wellness, and how some people are able to maintain a sense of wellness in the midst of illness. I heard Dr. Dean Ornish say the difference between illness and wellness is the contrast between “I” and “We.” For sure, science has […]

Curious or Afraid?

I was already working on today’s blog, pondering the question of whether life has taught you to be more curious or more afraid, when I came across this Chinese Proverb in a thought for the week from a friend of mine, Byron Stock, who works with emotional intelligence. “That the birds of worry […]

Patience and Timing

A flock of peacocks live here in Harbor Hills, where I am visiting my husband’s brother and sister-in-law. Cindy and I wanted to get some photos. One day they were out, but neither of us had our cameras with us. One day we both had our cameras, but it was very foggy, so lighting […]

If I Were Brave

What would I do if I knew that I could not failIf I believed would the wind always fill up my sailHow far would I go, what could I achieve… Trusting the hero in me If I Were Brave, words and music by Jana Stanfield and Jimmy Scott Amazing sunset view seen while […]