Most of us have some habitual behaviors we would appreciate being able to change. You may have heard that it takes six weeks to stabilize a new behavior, or 21 days to break a habit. According to research, there are many variables, and suggestions vary greatly as to how you can make positive changes.
One thing most researchers agree on, though, is all habits have an emotional payoff and therefore an emotional trigger, so your emotions play a key role in your developing new habits. See “Does It Really Take 21 Days to Break a Habit?” by Brian Roemmele.
The following exercise is something inspired from my reading Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming, by Richard Bandler. I think you will discover that it is designed to allow you to quickly change your emotions, so you can easily change your behaviors.
Step 1
Make a small picture of yourself the way you would prefer to be.
Step 2
Make a big picture of what had triggered the bad habit.
Step 3
Turn the big picture around so that it becomes totally white, and then take the little picture and pop it up all at once so you tell your mind’s eye “Not this….This!”
Step 4
Do the things that it takes to get through the desire. Say to yourself, “I have other desires that I don’t act on. I can control my desires. Human beings are like that.” Think about desires you do control: the desire to smack someone; the desire to scream at someone; the desire for an attractive person or a decadent dessert. You are able to control your desires all the time about other stuff and you can get through this the same way.
Step 5
Keep whiting out the images that created the emotions around the bad habit.
This week, every time you get a craving feeling in your body for something you that was not good for you, replace it with the good feeling that you can control your desires.
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Rev. Debra Basham
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