Most of us are aware of the danger of a blind spot in our mirrors when we are driving, but did you know in the eyes of all vertebrates, the nerve fibers route before the retina, blocking some light and creating a blind spot where the fibers pass through the retina and out of the eye? Here is a demonstration:
There is a correlation to this “blind spot” in our emotional/mental experience as well. Often we are unaware of behaviors, habits, patterns of thought and feeling. Feedback can help us to become aware, but we must take another step to benefit from that awareness. We can do this by acknowledging the awareness and then inner asking what the cause had been.
For example, I may wring my hands when I am speaking to a group. Someone can provide that feedback to me either by asking a question (direct or embedded), or making an observation:
“Are you aware that you often wring your hands when you are speaking to a group?”
“I am curious why you often wring your hands when you are speaking to a group.”
“I have noticed you often wring your hands when you are speaking to a group.”
The real gift of the awareness comes when you ask yourself what was behind the old behavior. As you are able to make a compassionate move from unawareness to self-awareness, you will begin to enjoy lasting change in the ways that bring the most benefits to you and to others.
This week, think about your being a loving parent to yourself by forgiving your past unskillful behavior as you do that of a child.
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Rev. Debra Basham
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“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” ~Mother Teresa Tips from 5 April 2010 to 6 August 2012 are here: Archived Tips |