It’s a Gift

Speaking about his book, All for Love: The Transformative Power of Holding Space, Matt Kahn shares,”I look back at these times and all the stories that I tell — I’m telling some very deep stories, I’m telling some very emotionally stirring stories. But as I’m telling the stories, even when I’m recalling the deepest pain, I’m really recalling them from a place of gratitude, because I look back at my life and I really do see how everything was a divine setup for who I came to be and all the lives that I’m so blessed I have the chance to touch.”

This has certainly been true for my life as well.

In 1988 I was living with chronic pain. I was having bad days and worse days. I NEVER had a day back then that was free of pain.

Experiencing relief of unrelenting chronic pain resulted in my passion for getting certified in Healing Touch.

It is other-worldly to even imagine what would have unfolded differently without all of it.

The focus circle is based on the work of Jerry and Esther Hicks (The Vortex), and the sample used below is adapted from one that was created by Arvind Singh.

Step one is to identify what you think of as a current limitation. The sample I have used is: “I feel insecure about my body.” Write about whatever you are working with in your own words so you know what will help.

Next, make a short, positive statement of what you do want: “A vibrant, healthy, sexy, body.” Be sure to avoid anything that might seem unrealistic or unattainable right now, like the following: “My body could be on the cover of a fitness magazine, “or “I can have my dream body in a week.” Again, using your own words for your goal.

Now, easily start your change in attitude, belief, and behavior, from a place you have experienced because, as Singh says, it is hard to have emotional resistance about something that you have already had.

1. I like the way that I feel in that new outfit.
2. I have a desire to be healthy.
3. I felt so vibrant that night in Cancun, just dancing all night.
4. I feel my cells responding as I write this, getting brighter and healthier.
5. Everything I have ever really put my mind to, I have accomplished.
6. I’ve been told I have amazing eyes.
7. What I’m experiencing right now has created a strong desire for change.
8. I can see myself feeling confident and attractive.
9. My inner-being loves me unconditionally.
10. I appreciate the fact that I can deliberately achieve what I want.
11. When I close my eyes I can see and feel my vibrant, healthy, sexiness.
12. I am a beautiful and beloved creation.

I always like to look again at my positive statement and notice I can actually feel that now.

State your current positive statement, “I feel vibrant, healthy, and sexy now” and just relax a bit as you think about all the things that are wonderful that came to be out of a process. Plants, babies, houses, your goal for better health and well-being – they are all things that take a while to achieve and they are worth the time and commitment.

All human beings are navigating life.

Rather than be disappointed or angry or sad about what someone (even if that someone is you) is experiencing, realize that you might be moments from a breakthrough.

While it is undeniable they are not pleasant, breakdowns can lead to breakthroughs. We end up having more compassion, more understanding, and more wisdom. We learn something helpful and share that with others.

At first, we can feel out-of-control and overwhelmed with our feelings of despair and anxiety. It’s hard to see that what we are going through is often a gift wrapped in a not-so-pretty package. ~ Kristen D. Boice

Its a gift that I have been waiting my whole life for!